Failure is as much a part of life as success. Whether you let it consume you or use it to make a better you. To make “better mistakes” is not just an act in itself but, should be a reflection of a universal attribute we should all have and always cultivate.
“Greek tragedy” is a perfect representation of the reality of failure. Failure does happen to all and it can happen to anyone, good or bad. This should make us not only be calmer to give the proverbial answer of shit happens” when failure comes, but this should make us kinder and loving to everyone despite their shortcomings.
Throughout history, man has greeted failure differently. From death, loss, despair to triumph, growth and lesson. In truth, humanity has had a long history of screwing up. In view of lessons learnt from failure, the general world view isn’t entirely welcoming to the concept of making “better mistakes”.
Failure is seen as detrimental and engulfing one’s value center, one is nothing if they don’t succeed or make something great happen. A common theme in ancient roman was seeing failure as not an option, success is all that matters, it’s here and now and the true signs of success are money, power, strength and respect, which in turn brought a lot of frustration and guilt around failure if not achieved.
Failure was understood as being accompanied by shame, great guilt and depression. The only true way of bearing this shame of failure was to literally kill one’s self. From time passed, the world has a broken definition of success and failure. Nobility and money are equaled to success as failure is equaled to unproductiveness and unintelligence. Despite the misconceptions surrounding the possibility and attitudes around failure, there is a lot to learn from it.
We will all fail at one point in our lives, despite whatever the definition of success or failure is. Failure is part of the journey to success but, how can we take the highway and learn from failure.
HERE ARE SOME LESSONS TO BE LEARNT FROM FAILURE
1. Success isn’t everything, hard work will not betray you.
Edison once said that it was ten thousand failures led him to success in inventing the light bulb. This is mostly quoted in relation to encouragement, not giving up but, it also surprisingly speaks about hard work. In truth, if you work to the best of your ability, do whats required and still fail you really have nothing lost.
We don’t have total control of what happens but, we do have control of how to react to what happens. Choose to have an attitude that treasures the way to your goal, just as much as achieving or not achieving your goal. Shit does happen.
2. What doesn’t kill you really does make you stronger (in this context anyway)
Famously said by Fredrick Nietzsche, reality is failure, in most of modern life that doesn’t mean death or a need for suicide. It may mean that you may not be well because of the failure, but its a new day, new opportunity, and new time to learn from your old ways build and be a better you. It may take you a lot of attempts but keep at it. Many people don’t get to where there are without little or a lot of failure, here and there.
A failure is a project that doesnt work, an initiative that teaches you something at the same time the outcome doesnt move you directly closer to your goal.
A mistake is either a failure repeated, doing something for the second time when you should have known better, or a misguided attempt (because of carelessness, selfishness or hubris) that hindsight reminds you is worth avoiding.
We need a lot more failures, I think. Failures that dont kill us make us bolder, and teach us one more way that wont work, while opening the door to things that might.
3. Failure teaches you to never give up, Success doesn’t come cheap.
It’s easy to smile, be glad and very content when you are always winning. Its boring really… but, when you have adversity and when you do your best and if you lose, the fun can be the chase, really. And when you do succeed after all the fighting it definitely feels worth it.
Success is the ability to go from failure to failure without losing your enthusiasm, said Sir Winston Churchill. Success has its roots in believing in one’s self and not deciding to quit, but striving to do better, be better and be wise.
Henry Ford was the inventor of the assembly line and American-made cars, he didn’t have an instant success. His early businesses failed and left him broke five times before he founded the successful Ford Motor Company. So you failed once and want to give up, shame on you.
Life is a journey, life is truly what you make it. You may have to climb mountains, cross deserts, swim through seas to get what you want and as long as you are human, you will have your less than impressive moments, setbacks but, what you decide to do will make a hell of a difference to get to where you are going.
I can accept failure, everyone fails at something. But I cant accept not trying.
Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently.