“Loving yourself and knowing what you what are necessary keys not only to master the art of willpower, or in a better light Self-respect is the fruit of discipline; the sense of dignity grows with the ability to say no to ones self.”Abraham Joshua Heschel
The possession of willpower and self-discipline or their lack, play an important role in everyones life. One may have goals, plans and schedule to achieve what is to be gain, in order to reach, reap and bear said fruits, the art of sowing must be known, practiced and mastered.
A general attitude toward the idea is that it is rigid and authoritarian, is centred around the virtues of frugality and saving, and in many ways was hostile to life and there has been an increasing tendency to be suspicious of any discipline,
and to make undisciplined, lazy indulgence in the rest of one’s life the counterpart and balance for the routinized way of life imposed on us during the eight hours of work, waking up early, hard work, moderation and indulge in unnecessary luxuries.
How does one practice discipline? To get up at a regular hour, to devote a regular amount of time during the day to activities such as meditating, reading, listening to music, walking; not to indulge, at least not beyond a certain minimum, in escapist activities like mystery stories and movies, not to overeat or overdrink are some obvious and rudimentary rules.
It is essential, however, that discipline should not be practiced like a rule imposed on oneself from the outside, but that it becomes an expression of one’s own will; that it is felt as pleasant, and that one slowly accustoms oneself to a kind of behaviour which one would eventually miss, if one stopped practicing it. The East has recognized long ago that that which is good for manfor his body and for his soulmust also be agreeable, even though at the beginning some resistances must be overcome. Erich Fromm
Now here is the mountain to climb in the idea of willpower. Leon Seltzer states that The price of discipline is always less than the pain of regret. Surrendering to immediate, self-indulgent attractions or enticements inevitably leads to your becoming subservient to them.
And as a consequence, the likelihood of achieving longer-term goals is seriously undermined. Self-discipline: a willingness to do whatever it takes to reach personally valued goals and objectives, independent of whatever challenges, or unpleasantness, may be linked to the process of attaining them.
Learning to feel really good about ourselves is a major part of what personal growth and evolution is all about. And our progress in this venture requires us to become more adult in our thinking.
Giving up pursuing transient feelings of euphoria and instead seek out those things that culminate in far-more-lasting positive feelings about self is one that will also boost our self-esteem. And it will promote a self-love that is totally separate from any mere narcissistic gratification.
Self-discipline is an act of cultivation. It requires you to connect todays actions to tomorrows results. Theres a season for sowing and reaping, minding your mind helps you know which is which.
No one is free who is not master of himself. (Shakespeare)
Most powerful is he who has himself in his own power. (Seneca)