”A man cannot be comfortable without his own approval.”
Margo Anand writing on the art of self-love says Loving yourselfdoes not mean being self-absorbed or narcissistic, or disregarding others. Rather it means welcoming yourself as the most honored guest in your own heart, a guest worthy of respect, a lovable companion.
The most important decision of your life, the one that will affect every other decision you make, is the commitment to loving and acceptance of yourself. It directly affects the quality of your relationships, your work, your free time, your future and most of all your general well-being.
Having a love affair with yourself and letting go of the layer of false admiration of self through honest reflection and a mindful shift is a must venture in human life. Independently, wholly and plainly letting go of the veil of self-imposed doubt and self-neglect. Being the best you, you can be involves Loving thine self.
5 STEPS TO KEEP IN MIND IN “THE ART OF SELF LOVE”
1. Knowing and finding your core values.
You should love yourself unconditionally. Loving yourself no matter what, through success or failure and no matter what other people think and realize that just by being a human being, being alive you are lovable. You don’t need to do anything. Your very existence is essence and that is enough. Knowing yourself isn’t arrogance, In fact, arrogance is often the foundation of low self-esteem and insecurity. Learning to embrace who you are, both strengths and weaknesses is intimate and a very important fact as you begin the art of self-love.
2. Speak to yourself positively and Stop surrounding yourself with toxic people, words and actions.
Do you pursue your dreams and goals because youre excited about the possibilities and the discoveries, because you want to serve others and honor your life’s work? Or do you do it because you want to prove to yourself and others that you are worthy of love, adoration and respect?
There is no greater path than to fulfil one’s own way, no one will truly ever understand you, yourself included and people will talk about you whether you do bad or good, so finding a healthy balance between being selfless and selfish is important.
If you stop and look in the mirror to notice that you stopped thinking negatively and letting these negative thoughts about yourself, negative words people say about you consume you, its a good sign that you learning to accept yourself.
Establishing positive affirmation with yourself as you is important. The use of your words toward yourself with utmost strength, care and consideration. This is among the most powerful and self-effective ways in refining your words to keep your thoughts and action in perspective. This can be done by keeping a journal as you keep your thoughts, goals and plans in permanent form as this is key to the art of self-love.
3. Take care of your mind and body.
Don’t fill your mind and body with stuff that is detrimental to your health. Love your body, your looks and appearance, learn to be confident with who you are, because no one truly will but, you.
By eating right, exercising and various other good lifestyle related choices, one lives, learns and loves that unique being that makes the essence that is you.
4. Find the ways in which you can live Life enjoyably.
No one loves a boring, unproductive or dry life. Take time and effort to put your life and mindset in the most realistic and comfortable way possible, be it in all aspects of your life.
So the art of self-love means making something of Life. Finding that unique voice that only you can hear and following it wholeheartedly. Committing to your plans and goals, learning to have fun with it all. Treasure it, its your life after all.
5. Make good decisions.
Take time to think about what you will do and the choices you make. Don’t make hasty decisions. They say “a man is a sum of the choices he makes”, so do take wise and fulfilling steps toward your life. If your decisions are more thoughtful and deliberate than you have less regrets and will be less depressed even when stuff goes wrong.
Feeling worthy requires you to see yourself with fresh eyes of self-awareness and love. Acceptance and love must come from within and from you. You dont have to be different or special to be worthy.
Your worth is in your true nature, a core of love and inner self acceptance and mastery. You are a being. Who are you? You are who you are. We cant bury ourselves and its impossible to neglect self completely.
• Final thought
While you should always have the drive to improve yourself, its also important to care, accept and love yourself the way you are. Be patient, sincere and kind to yourself during your life. When you mess up, forgive yourself. When you fall, get back up. When you doubt, seek clarity. Most importantly, practice loving yourself as you move through life. Soon the art of self-love will become part of you. Loving ourselves isnt a onetime event or decision. Its an endless, ongoing process. It begins with you, ends with yourself in your own affection and appreciation.
“Until you value yourself, you wont value your time. Until you value your time, you will not do anything with it.”
M. Scott Peck