“A person’s worth in this world is estimated according to the value they put on themselves”
Jean de la bruyere
What does it mean to be authentic? Authenticity with one’s self is being genuine, being literally self-authored, endorsed, being congruent- living up to one’s word. There is an exact correspondence among what is, what should be and what can be
The general definition of Authenticity of self to identity is a mental and physical agreement or harmony. Now apply this to a life approach or one’s life, it means someone who lives with authentic acts in direct accordance with their goals, desires, beliefs, values and being.
Self is your physical and mental being with all its human unique characteristics and genes. Authentic self is your true you, aligned, focused toward the congruent self-image and self-philosophy. People who embrace the authentic self do not let the thoughts of others mainly affect their approach to the world. They take their own unique path paved by their understanding of themselves.
Authenticity leads to attraction and connection with ourselves, something we all look for. We may not care to admit it often but, no one really enjoys the company of people who can’t be themselves.
No sound minded people love being fake, fake people or wants to lies to themselves. Authenticity leads to confidence in the unique person that is you, your energy and desire to live increases with each day as you consciously decide to be you and decide what you want for your life. In truth, both a scary yet wonderful thing.
You feel at peace that you are going about life with intention and you will not be scared or give apologies for your well thought out actions. Decisions become easy to make rather than being moved by the wind, false emotions and irrational thoughts. Things start to fall into place because, let’s face it, real peace is made and owned.
Once you keep knowing what you want, who you are and what you believe in, you start to show it more through your words and actions, this will begin to happen in both a conscious and often subconscious manner, you begin to be more and more self-transformed. Authenticity, by its core means living on purpose, but you first must know your purpose.
As Humans we are naturally driven to want to act in a way that is consistent with our beliefs, goals, personality and experiences as Robert Cialdini says:
“The difficulty is we often dont know our true beliefs and values. Many of us have not spent the proper time sharpening the saw because we were in such a hurry to cut the tree down.”
Before you know it, many of us are busy cutting with the wrong tools and even chopping the wrong tree altogether. In order to feel genuinely fulfilled, it is important to embrace the you that is your true self, you must live authentically, think authentically and be authentic.
Know yourself as to what you can change and what you can’t. Your own personality traits, learned behaviors, beliefs, goals and motives that interact and integrate into one’s personal form of human interaction toward everything and everyone in the universe.
Begin to analyze and Embrace yourself, the events, choices and people who have contributed to self throughout your life. Understand what guides you, makes you what you are, different from anyone else. Look for something of self-defined sense and that which is true to you.
This in time means being yourself, Discovering your signature strength and basis of your true stature and applying it all to your authentic goals and philosophy. Have the courage to acknowledge your limitations and embrace the best you, you can be. Embracing the best version of yourself.
“It is easy to live for others, everybody does. I call on you to live for yourself.”
Ralph Waldo Emerson.